I don’t know that any aspect of my life is as I thought it would be when I was younger. It is not at all the picture I had in my mind. This truth has been the source of some, o.k., a lot of heartache and questioning for me. As I have wrestled with God over the years about the disparity between the life I wanted and the life I have, I think I have learned and continue to learn a few things that I hope will encourage you if you find yourself in a life script that you would not have written for yourself.
Be Happy Today – Don’t wait for tomorrow. Don’t wait until you’ve finished. Don’t wait until you’ve arrived. Don’t wait until the finish line. Celebrate today. Give thanks today. Rejoice over progress not just completion. Life is happening now, embrace it.
Your Circumstances Don’t Define You – Oh, society will scream loudly and well intending people will label you, but you are so much more than your circumstances. I spent years believing the lie that I didn’t have the life I wanted because I wasn’t one of God’s favorites, or because I’d taken a misstep, or maybe because I just wasn’t enough. So many people, maybe all people have circumstances in their life that they would not choose. These circumstances don’t mean that God doesn’t love you or that He is holding out on you. On the contrary, He loves you and He loves me, we are both His favorites and He trusts us with our life stories and provides us enough grace to walk the road He’s called us to.
Be Where You Are – If you spend your time wishing you were somewhere else you can’t enjoy all the beauty God has given you right where you are. Do what He has put in front of you today and do it with joy and excellence. Today is what we have and tomorrow is not promised, so show up for it, engage in it, put down your phone, look into their eyes, listen with your whole heart and live fully!
Let Go of Comparison – God called you to the life you are living. It can be so easy to look around and think, I want their life! I’ve learned that life is beautiful and hard all at the same time and each individual is dealing with some of both. Focus on your lane, focus on reaching your intended destination, focus on getting all you can from your journey and cheer others on as they seek to navigate their own path.
Life, I’ve realized for each of us includes circumstances that we would’ve never seen coming and that likely are not what we would’ve chosen. The beauty about even the heartache is that God uses it to show us so much about ourselves and about who He is.
There are days I still struggle with reality versus the picture in my mind, but I am learning to trust Him more, to trust Him at His word, to trust that He always has my best in mind and that He knows exactly the part I need to play in my time here on earth and my job is to embrace the story He is unfolding before me. I’ve learned a few things and I’m still learning. What about you? What has God been teaching you through a life that didn’t go as planned?