Probably one of my least favorite phrases in life has been, “It is what it is”. I think because I’ve seen it used as response to settling for less or a hall pass for not showing up for excellence. When details are left unattended, things are seemingly falling apart and that one person just chimes in with, “it is what it is”. That comment in the thick of things sends me to another stratosphere. What I feel like I’m hearing is, “deal with it”, “it’s fine, get over it”, “it’s not a big deal, move on” and these notions irritate the life out of me!
Anyone else? Please say yes!
You see, the details matter to me. Making the most of a moment matters to me. Making it special matters to me. Getting it right matters to me.
While I still think it can be an overused, slightly lame phrase, I also know that sometimes my friend, it truly…”is what it is.”. So, I must face it, acknowledge it and move forward.
Even if it doesn’t look how I wanted, even if it doesn’t feel how I want it to feel, even if I thought my plans were better, even if I have doubts about how it will turn out.
It is what it is and maybe just maybe I can work with that. I can survive the interruptions and follow the re-route and enjoy the detour. Maybe I can hold things a little more loosely and somehow in doing so cherish them more dearly. Maybe as I open my hands to let go of my ideal, I find that what it is, is pretty spectacular too?