What’s Love Got To Do With It?

I can hear Tina Turner in my head now, “What’s love got to do, got to do with it, what’s love but a second-hand emotion, what’s love got to do, got to do with it, who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?”  Good question and she’s got a point!

I have thought often over the years that people are the best and worst part of life!  I know that may sound harsh, but let me explain.  Family and friendship can be so beautiful and sweet.  It is truly one of life’s greatest gifts to have someone who knows you in all your imperfectness and loves you still.  There is also the fact that if we love, we will get hurt and that part isn’t my favorite!  Relationships of all kinds at their best take time, work, attention, compromise and you will walk through times that are just plain hard.  I have just recently walked through this where I felt like I had poured into someone, let them in, only to have them betray me.  It was shocking, it was unexpected, it hurt deeply, it still stings and my immediate reaction is to want to shut down, put walls around my heart and not let anyone else in.

How do you react when someone mishandles the love you have shown?  What do you do when someone throws away the time and memories and you can’t make sense of it?  What do you do with the hurt when there is no “I’m sorry” and no explanation?  You may ask yourself as Ms. Turner did, “who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?”  I know that thought has crossed my mind lately.  These feelings are normal and completely understandable but they are not the final word.

1 Corinthians 13 known as the LOVE chapter says this:

If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it;[a] but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages[b] and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture!10 But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless.

11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things. 12 Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity.[c] All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.

13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

You see my friend, love has EVERYTHING to do with it!  Love is why He came, Love is why He went to the cross, Love is why He is faithful, Love is why He is persistent, Love is why He is so kind, Love is why He keeps on forgiving, Love is why He stays.

And so I have my answer, Love is why I will forgive, Love is why I will keep showing up, Love is why I will humble myself, Love is why I will open my heart again, Love is why and it has EVERYTHING to do with it!

Three things will last forever – faith, hope, and love – and the GREATEST of these is love ❤

No Greater Love

So thankful I serve a God who whispers to me in the midst of difficulty, who brings sweetness even when there’s pain.

When I choose to step outside of MY hurt, MY struggles, MY issues and reach out to bless others despite MY feelings, He is there. It is in these moments, I realize I am closest to Him. It is in the midst of all the messiness of this life that I struggle and wrestle against, the circumstances I don’t want, when I put them aside, I see Him more clearly.

When I make the choice despite MY feelings and MY circumstances to love on someone else, I guess I catch just a small glimpse of Jesus’ heart for me.

Despite HIS pain, Despite HIS struggles, Despite HIS heartache, HE made a choice.

Love is a choice, Love has a cost, Love is sacrificial, Love is selfless, Love is humbling, Love is hard, Love is beautiful. Love is God. There is no greater Love than HIM!!

I’m In Love!

Falling in love is hands down the best thing I’ve ever done! If the truth be told, I think I’m falling more in love every day 🙂     Oh, How I love Him, let me count the ways…

  • There is not a day that goes by that He doesn’t do something to show me He is thinking of me.
  • He loved me even when I didn’t believe I was loveable and saw beauty in me that I was blind to.
  • He encourages me and talks so tenderly.
  • He is patient and gentle with me and yet challenges me to be better.
  • I feel so protected in His arms and my heart is safe in His embrace.
  • He knows me so well and knows exactly how to speak to my heart.
  • He has come to my rescue countless times.
  • He is strong yet gentle and I simply can’t get enough of Him!
  • One of the sweetest things He does, is sing songs to me while I sleep.
  • In this crazy, sometimes scary world, He is my safe place to fall.

I could go on, but let it suffice to say, He is simply AMAZING in every way!  Really, what kind of man would go to such extremes to win my heart?  Jesus, I am so in love with you ❤

More Than A Feeling

What is the most lavish thing anyone has ever done for you that made you truly feel loved? Maybe lavish is the wrong word, no flash mob is required and no romantic proposal displayed on a jumbotron is necessary. What about the most thoughtful thing someone has done for you that really let you know you were special to them?

My sister once decorated a mason jar and hand wrote on individual slips of paper, her favorite memories about the two of us throughout the years.  One memory on each little note, a jar full of memories shared between sisters.  That gift made me feel so special and loved, not because it was expensive or especially beautiful to behold, but because she thought about me and took the time to let me know.  By giving me that jar full of goodness, she was telling me that our times together were important and memorable to her.  Important enough that she took the time to think about it and show me how she felt.  Pretty special, if you ask me!

Love is a verb, it requires action.  It’s more than a feeling, it should be on display and I’m not talking about PDA people!  There are a million ways to demonstrate our love for those around us.  How about tell them?  Don’t just think it, say it, “I love you”.  I don’t think anyone at the end of their days says, “man, I wish I hadn’t told people I loved them so much!”  I however, believe, there are many who have a heart full of regret and wish they would’ve done more to love on those around them while they had the chance.  We all have limited time and resources but we are all capable of demonstrating our love for another in tangible ways.  Help out with a project they’ve been wanting to finish, buy that special gift they’ve been eyeing for a while, take a walk and talk and listen, I mean really listen, give them a genuine compliment, tell them why they are a blessing to you OR you can indeed, always choreograph a flash mob, cause nothing says “I love you” like a crowd of strangers shakin’ their groove thing.

I think you all get the point here, but what if my sister had thought about how much she loved me, but never told me?  If she thought about how many good times we shared, but never took the time to express it?  Ya, I could probably still surmise that she digs me, but boy, it feels good when someone shows you!  And, if we truly love our family and our friends, we want to do more than think it, we want to show it!

So, why not take some action right now…what are you going to do today, tomorrow, by the end of this week to demonstrate your love for someone in your life?  I want to be in the habit of finding meaningful ways to express my love for those I hold dear.  As far as it is up to me, I want there to be absolute confidence and clarity for those that I cherish that they are deeply loved.  Who knows, maybe there’s a flash mob in their future?!  Don’t just feel it, show it!   Be encouraged!